I never thought I would have to deal with mom shaming. For the most part I have very positive friends, that uplift and encourage.
However, I have one mom in my life that likes to shame. Sadly to say, she is family. It makes it even harder to digest. I am not one to cut people out of my life, yet I feel she is one that needs to have less availability to me and my children.
It is hard. She preaches the, “Do not judge me”, and yet she judges. Currently she is one of leaders of my girls’ puppetry group, for a church competition. She has noticed that my middle child is less focused and impulsive. I already know this, she has ADHD. When I went to explain some tips and ways we have been working to help her ADHD, she began the mom shaming. She said things like, “that is just an excuse for bad parenting.” It hurt.
It is hard to deal with shaming, especially when it is family. To brush off and move on, may not always work. There are going to be family functions. I have been learning that even though I would like others to approve, God is my only needed approval. He knows my girls through and through. He did not give me these girls to raise, unless I was the correct fit for them. It is no accident that He called me to homeschool. He has a plan and a purpose, even through the mom shame.
One of the hardest lessons I am learning is to pray for those who hurt me. It is so hard. Yet, the peace comes after I take that step.
Have you ever dealt with mom shame? I want you to know You are Enough! You are Valued! You are Approved of!!
But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!
Matthew 5:44 NLT